I Hear You The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships [Pdf Kindle]
Didn t seem to get what you meant Or understood your point and were obviously disconnected from the Emotion Or Weight Of The or weight of the I Hear You by Michael S Sorensen is all about the power of validation and how to use it in your life I have to say this little book is fantastic Sorensen explains the problem and common traps we fall into how we re unknowingly invaldiating by trying to jump straight to giving advice or negate a persons feelings with phrases like you ll be fine or that s not true you did great and the like It explains why these conversations feel like they re unsatisfying He then offers a very simple easy to follow solution that I ve already started incorporating into my daily life I m really glad
I Read This And Would Recommend It read this and would recommend it others I won this book for free in a Goodreads giveaway I wish self help books were like this There is hardly an extra word here it recognizes nuance where it exists and it reflects the conclusions of the research not just the author s opinion and experience Sorenson s steps for listening includeHow to Listen empathically How to engage in Micro and Macro ValidationHow to Ask for Permission and how to Give Feedback How to Validate Again it s worth repeating and how to Validate VulnerabilityIt may be that you have intuited some of what is in this book But even if you get a lot of complements on your listening skills this book is worth your time I will certainly be re reading it I implore you to listen to me and reading this book on listening Hear me when I say you won t regret it p A few jobs ago I attended a two day work seminar which consisted of educating managers and supervisors how to motivate employees and build a strong team One section dealt with communication techniues particularly with folks who were anywhere along the mildly upset to angry spectrum One of the ey points to having a successful outcome involved validating the other person I wasn t sure if author Michael S Sorensen would have anything new to add but as Les Brown said It s always good to be reminded of what you now I am glad to say that not only did I receive a reminder but Mr Sorensen added a few ideas that I can add to my conversation toolbox The advice he offers are not tricks But Tried And True Methods That Work These Suggestions Can tried and true methods that work These suggestions can used anywhere anytime at home with family including children or at work with co workers The author includes sections to address some of the specific issues you might encounter when dealing with a young child or a peer who has misjudged your actions and publicly criticized you He also includes many examples to demonstrate how his methods can be employed in everyday conversationsOne item I really appreciated was that the author did not artificially inflate his book with unnecessary chapters or words His writing is succinct to the point with just enough said so you can understand and immediately begin using these ideas Recommended for anyone who finds in daily conversations with other people Five starsMy thanks to GoodReads where I won this book in a Giveaway Contest and after reading it I chose to write a review. Ationshipsuickly resolve or even prevent argumentsHelp others become open to your point of viewGive advice and feedback that sticksProvide support and encouragement to others even when you don't now how to fix the problemAnd much In short this skill is powerful Give the principles and practices in this book a chance and you'll be amazed at the difference they can ma.
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Thanks Macayla for the recommendationbook loan This was a really easy and practical read and will make you excited to be a better listener and thus a better friend or spouse you excited to be a better listener and thus a better friend or spouse coworker or what have you Time to put those phones away and practice some good ol fashioned listening and validation good information won through a and validation Good information Won through a giveaway Thank you to author Michael Sorensen for providing me a free e copyThe introduction was a little off putting it s very clear that as Sorensen himself states he doesn t have much experience as a writer overly descriptive language cliches excessive italics and multiple grammatical errors whosewhose theirtherethey re Most relevantly the suggested lines and dialogue samples don t uite read as natural which doesn t help his point about using them to replace the standard platitudes It could be worse etc But he s clearly done some research and admits upfront that the book is primarily based on personal experience rather than scientific backing which doesn t completely invalidate his advice but does make it Audible Daily Deal 91619 for 195I ve only read a few self help style books but I m trying to improve my communication style not only in my own relationship but in my new job as a supervisor So I Ve Been I ve been the lookout for something that would fit into that category and this fit the bill Being listened to and heard is one of the greatest desires of the human heart And those who learn to listen are the most loved and respected Richard Carlson There are some great things about this book First is the length The author comes right out and says that nothing bothers him than a book that takes 300 pages to say something that could have been said in 50 So this is short and sweet the author gets to the point gives some examples and moves on I appreciate that being that I like my fluff in fiction and not self help books Second is the language Since the author is not a therapist or has a bunch of letters after his name this reads well The concept of validation is distilled down to layman s language and it is easy to get There are some real world examples that help solidify every concept or step and they feel natural with everyday verbage that I could see myself saying validation in the context of interpersonal skills anyway is the act of recognizing and affirming the validity or worth of a person s emotions Essentially validation means saying to someone I hear you I get what you re feeling and it s perfectly alright to feel that way Third for me was the biggest Just because you validate an emotion does not mean that you agree I ve struggled with this one in the past the most Just because you are acknowledging how a person is feeling and telling them you understand the feelings they are having does not mean that you agree with what is making them feel that way Validation is not saying you re right I still struggle with this but it is a work in progressOverall this had some great tips for where to start on your journey to learning how to listen to people differently in a conversation and understand where they are coming from It pointed out how. What if making one tweak to your day to day conversations could immediately improve every relationship in your life In this 3 hour conversational read you'll discover the whats whys and hows of one of the most valuable yet surprisingly little nown communication skills validationWhether you're looking to improve your relationship with your spouse navigate difficult Some of our initial responses to situations while trying to be helpful might really invalidate someone s feelings I liked that this was short and sweet and gave me things to work on in my day to day life without all the fluff and fodder I ve found in some other books of this type Even thought Michael isn t a phycologist or therapist I thought his 4 step program and distillation of the information from his many years of therapy was really good and his 4 step program and distillation of the information from his many years of therapy was really good and I received this book through a Goodreads giveawayThis book is a concise review of essential listening skills It does not as many personal development books do spend a lot of time explaining why you might want to read the bookacuire these skills this always frustrates me You ve already got me as a reader Let s get right to the substance Short and sweet without claiming to reveal anything terribly new this is the ind of book I appreciate to help me to review and recalibrate Am I the BWWM (Interracial Romance BWWM African American Multicultural Romance) *2 (Interracial Romance BWWM African American Multicultural Romance) *2: Billionaires Secret Baby (BWWM Secret Baby Romance Contemporary Romance) kind of listener who leaves others feeling validated Or do I blunder in with advice beforenowing whether my advice is wanted or even based on the whole story If I had children I think I would use this book to help me teach them interpersonal skills As it is I ll be glad to have it on my indle to reread and double check myself The book in a nutshell1 Empathize2 Validate their emotionsAnd then if reuested3 Provide your perspective recommendations 4 Finish with final validationMost often only 1 and 2 is needed Providing perspectives and advice without validating people s emotions and recognizing that their emotions are understandableacceptable is a freuent flaw committed by most peopleI found the above convincing and paying attention to validating people s feelings and emotions is surely sound advice The author overplays and simplify John Gottman s relationship theories He provides very little advice beyond the above which he however exemplifies fairly wellIt is an OK short read but it is very limited in scope Despite the absolute fundamental application of this validation principle I ve never heard it spoken of in all my years of communication study What a pity because incorporating validation will absolutely 110% improve relationships which is a truly exciting thought Who DOESN T want to understand Who DOESN T want to be understood At it s essence validation is offering the affirmation every human being unconsciously seeks The only reason I could think of that it would be overlooked in literature would be that it s so basic so integral authors must not deem it complicated enough to write about Again a pityAs my own proof of how strongly I feel I Hear You has been highlighted marked up noted and will be placed next to my very few other to re read books once it s made the rounds of everyone I recommended it to I won this book "Off A Giveaway And Am " a Giveaway and am glad I did Being listened to and heard is one of the greatest desires of the human heart Richard CarlsonSuch a simple concept and yet it seems like the need freuently goes unmet Have you ever had a conversation with someone who is obviously listening to the words you re saying but. Onversations at work or connect on a deeper level with friends and family this book delivers simple practical proven techniues for improving any relationship in your lifeMastery of this simple skill will enable you to Calm and sometimes even eliminate the concerns fears and uncertainties of othersIncrease feelings of love respect and appreciation in your romantic rel.