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IT LANGUISHED ON THE SHELF FORlanguished on the shelf for few years before I picked it up I expected yet another underwhelming parenting book Instead I encountered a evolutionary interpretation of the ole of attachment in the lives of our youngsters and an exploration of the implications of this on our culture and our ole as parents The basic neurodevelopmental ole of attachment in the establishment of natural authority is explained and the toxic influences of modern attitudes towards parenting and peer interactions on this system were carefully looked at The implications of this are not to be underestimated I was floored But The Truth Of What Mate And Neufeld Lay Out In truth of what Mate and Neufeld lay out in clear and easy to ead language was apparent I found myself A London Home in the 1890s rethinking many of my own ideas in clinical practice and my own family and I have to say I now feel very lucky to haveead this book I The Geology And Landscape Of Santa Barbara County, California, And Its Offshore Islands recommend it to anyone with kids of any age or plans to have them Polarization occurs inelationships which explains why youth shun their parents when they attach to their peers they can t see how to have both connections It is soooo important for parents
to spend plenty of time with their kids in fun engaging activitiesFor me this is one ofspend plenty of time with their kids in fun engaging activitiesFor me this is one of main Biopower: Foucault and Beyond reasons I homeschool I could never find enough time to spend with my children when they were gone from 8am to 4pm and thenacing off to other activities when they weren t at school Now I can actually have uiet conversations with them Hooray for home and family the key to healing the nation and the world This was one of the least helpful parenting books that I have ever Jane Doe and the Cradle of All Worlds read It is partly an attachment parenting book and partly an I miss the good old days whine fest To be fair I know a LOT about I thought the first part of the book where the author gives examples of the horrors that canesult when kids are peer oriented went on a bit too long but did find the chapters where he eventually got around to explaining concrete steps to take to maintain parental attachment while avoiding or Is That Even a Country, Sir! reversing peer attachment to be useful Beforeeading this book I thought kids would attach to their parents based largely on the sheer uantity of time they spent together but the authors have explained that it is complicated than that It is easier than I supposed for kids to become unattached to their parents but then on the flip side it shouldn t be too hard to get them back if you catch this earlyI also appreciated the chapter describing the ways peer orientation seems to be a good thing in young kids and that s why society pressures parents into getting their kids socialized at a young age Although it may be too complicated to explain to people who disagree in a social situation where this would come up the book does give the うそつきリリィ 3 [Usotsuki Lily 3] reader encouragement to be counter cultural and foster parental attachment way beyond the time most parents in our culture haveelinuished that The Prince role to peers Here s what I put on my blog about itA few months ago a friend blogged about a book she hadead Seeing how it seemed to have. International authority on child development Gordon Neufeld PhD joins forces with bestselling author Gabor Maté MD to tackle one of the most disturbing trends of our time Children today looking to their peers for direction their values identity and codes of behavior This “peer orientation” undermines family cohesion interferes with healthy development and fosters a hostil. ,
An impact on her and A Bold Carnivore: An Alphabet of Predators respecting her as a seriously amazing mom I decided to pick it up She wasight It was one of those books that I would try to elay to Ryan after every
Chapter I Read And He Even ListenedI ead And he even listened is sort of um Lifting rare It s obviously a little older than the stage my kids are at but I m glad Iead it before I get to that point where your kids are annoyed when you Mathruhridayam re around and just want to be with their friends because it also seems like something you should just make your lifestyle Practice makes perfect and it would be nice to get it figured out before youeally need it you know Besides the fact that it s not
LIKE IT HAPPENS OVERNIGHT AND Iit happens overnight and I amazed to see how early on the seeds of peer orientation are sewnPart of the basic idea is that the natural order is for things to be passed on from older generations to the younger ones knowledge ideas values how to act talk dress etc It s that way in all of nature animals and humans Or it used to be In the last few generations there has been a huge shift in that kids now look to their peers for this information ather than adults So much so that I didn t even ealize it wasn t normal when I was first A Life In School: What The Teacher Learned reading this book But as the author says anyoneeading the book probably grew up that way and so we don t even ealize it s a problem So now we have generations of immature children being aised by other immature children Even language and vocabulary has dropped as a The House That Had Enough result because theye getting their language or lack thereof from each other His idea is that this has The Devil's Snake Curve: A Fan's Notes From Left Field resulted in a whole lot of the issues that we see in society now children who want nothing to do with adults can t socialize with adults children who are aggressive calloused don t feel emotion don t engage in meaningfulelationships have their curiosity stamped out because it s not cool are sexually promiscuous with less feeling about it families falling apart parents who have lost the power to parent their children and kids who will follow their skewed instincts to stay close to their peers at all costs His theory is that we all have a basic instinct or need for attachment and when that is not met or strong enough with parents kids will shift that need to peers to fill it with the costly loss of parental attachment which causes parents to lose the power to parent their children because the children are no longer looking to them for cues about anythingI d love to tell you all the great ideas from the whole book but I wouldn t do it justice and The March Up: Taking Baghdad with the 1st Marine Division really you should justead it It Pimpinella Meerprinzessin 1: Ankunft im Muschelschloss (German Edition) really has made me think a lot about my own life my own parenting and did make me notice a lot of the things that did goight Like my mom always having lots of big family Dinners We Always Had Extended Family Around We always had extended family around always intermingled with the generations playing games and talking I also think of how much the church is inspired in this way from it s strong emphasis on families and family time to always ensuring that there were caring adults who played a big part in your life leaders and Sunday school teachers and such and helped yo. E and sexualized youth culture Children end up becoming overly conformist desensitized and alienated and being “cool” matters to them than anything else Hold On to Your Kids explains the causes of this crucial breakdown of parental influence and demonstrates ways to “reattach” to sons and daughters establish the proper hierarchy in the home make kids feel safe and ,
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were associating with better along with their familiesassociating with better along with their families also made me esolve to be a better friend to other kids to get to know my friend s kids better or other kids at church who could benefit from another caring adult in their life I ll admit this is hard for me I ve never been ll admit this is hard for me I ve never been Défendre Jacob real kid person so having my own children I ve had to be totally focused inward just to take care of my own little family especially once the twins came along I have a hard enough time paying attention to my own kids let alone someone else s but I always love it when friends have a genuine interest in my kids And that s part of his suggestions is to have a big network of caring adults family members and friends to be a part of your children s lives To help them attach to other positive adultsather than to a bunch of peers you know nothing about and that they want to leave your company to spend every waking minute with He says The greater the number of caring adults in a child s life the immune he or she will be to peer orientationIt did however make me anxious about sending my kids to school here especially given their personalities and made me Darfur's Sorrow: A History of Destruction and Genocide realize where you live and what kind of neighborhood and school area youe in could possibly have a huge impact on how your kids grow up for better or worse I was also interested to see how much applied to teachers and teaching and how much attachment plays a part in learningI even thought some of the advice was applicable to my marriage like Black Gold in North Dakota remembering theelationship is important than the behavior That s a good one And that filling someone s need for attention when they e begging for it eally doesn t fill the need it s only when it s spontaneously given that it Nestle Toll House Recipe Collection really satisfies Um ok that one wasn t actually for me HINTThe one thing I didn t like as much was that even though the things he was suggesting seemed to point to it he never said much about how staying home with your kidsather than working would be a good idea I m pretty sure his own wife and mother must have worked out of the home because he just sort of brushed it off as not being practical in today s world and just told you how to deal with it since you would probably be out working It just seemed like so many other things he was suggesting were different from the societal norm that it seems like he could have given it some weight as at least being beneficial to your children and worth the effort to make it work Anyway all in all the author is not saying friends are bad just that there should be adults around and ideally you would be involved with your children and their friends and their families He even goes into better ways to discipline to help preserve your elationship with your kids ather than hurt it That s going to take some creativity on my part and I ll have to see what works for usEven with how much I liked the book though I ll have to say it did take me about 3 or 4 months to Wicked City: The Other Side read it I just have trouble when theye not gripping page turners Alright enough already but I highly ecommend it. Nderstood and earn back your children’s loyalty and love This updated edition also specifically addresses the unprecedented parenting challenges posed by the ise of digital devices and social media By helping to Barefoot through Mauretania reawaken instincts innate to us all Neufeld and Maté will empower parents to be what nature intended a true source of contact security and warmth for their childre.